5. Choose the type of toy
When it comes to deciding which type of anal toy is best for you, take some time to consider what use and sensation you’re most interested in. It’s also worth understanding the baseline differences between different types of anal products.
However, butt plugs are an amazing sex toy on their own. One key benefit is that they allow you to focus on other pleasure centres, while simply staying in. In fact, a comfortably positioned butt plug should not be pushed in or pulled out until plug play is over.
Butt plugs facilitate sexual pleasure, because they apply pressure to erogenous zones and create the feeling of fullness. When it comes to sex, pressure is greatly underestimated and overshadowed by the “in and out motion”. In fact, pressure is what enables many people to climax and experience great pleasure, both vaginally and anally.
When starting off, try something about the size of finger, that is easy to insert, and follows a teardrop bookofsex shape or bulb, has a neck, and a narrow flared base for a comfortable fit between the butt cheeks. Another great option is b-Vibe’s Novice Plug.
Unlike a butt plug – which is only meant to go in and stay in – anal beads were designed to stimulated inside the body AND move in an out of the bum. The beads are inserted into the anus one at a time, creating a sensual feeling of fullness. They are then pulled out at varying speeds, depending on the desired effect. As the beads are removed, they arouse the sensitive nerve endings of the double ringed sphincter muscle. This stimulation creates a series of pleasurable sensations, like having a muscle massaged.
When starting off, I suggest choosing something small and preferably with beads that graduate in size. This allows the user to start with the smallest beads and then work towards larger beads as they become comfortable with the sensation.
6. Consider the size of the toy
It’s important to consider size when you start looking into anal toys. This is especially important when choosing butt plugs, because they vary hugely in size depending upon your experience level and needs. Start with smaller sized products, and slowly work up to larger sizes. Graduating in size can be done over the course of weeks, months, or not at all – stop whenever you feel comfortable.
7. Be safe
Since butt plugs and anal beads can be enjoyed hands-free, they should always have a flared base. Otherwise, there’s a significant risk of the product slipping too far into the anal canal and traveling up the colon – which may cause serious bodily harm. A flared base prevents the toy from being inserted entirely and makes retrieval not only easy but possible.
If you are new to anal sex toys, start off by wearing it for short periods of time. It’s never a good idea to take a brand new toy for a spin outside in public, say during a long dinner or a concert.
8. Never forget the lube
When it comes to any kind of anal play, using lubricant is essential. The anus does not lubricate naturally like the vagina, so you need to help it out a bit. Since a butt plug can stay in the body for long periods of time, you should always apply enough lubricant to ensure the easy and pleasurable removal of the plug. Our motto is ‘Slow and Slippery’.
9. Think about materials
This is often a topic that people pass up in favour of convenience or price, but it’s imperative to consider the material makeup of your products when selecting an anal toy. Avoid low-grade materials, including petroleum products that can irritate the lining of the anal canal. Always buy ‘body-safe’, hypoallergenic, latex-free, and phthalate-free products.